Meekness Is Not Weakness

Meekness Is Not Weakness

Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth” (Matthew 5:5 NIV).

Jesus described himself as gentle in Matthew 11:29, “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls” (emphasis added).  A gentle man is meek.  Meekness is a humble attitude that expresses itself in the patient endurance of offenses.  Meekness is not weakness. Many men confuse the two. However, the difference between a meek person and a weak person is a weak person can’t do anything. A meek person, on the other hand, can do something but chooses not to do it out of strength, not weakness.

When we “turn the other cheek” we do so out of meekness.  We may have the ability and even the right to retaliate, but in strength, not weakness, we show restraint.  Meekness is a virtue that we cannot

Jesus taught in the Sermon on the Mount about the meek.  “Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth” (Matthew 5:5).  Jesus saw the virtue in meekness.  Meekness is a Christ-like attribute and a fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22).  It’s a virtue that draws courage, strength, and conviction not from self-centered flesh or pride.  Meekness is certainly not weakness; it is power under control.

Probably the least admired character quality in America is meekness. And yet the greatest one who ever lived was a meek and humble man.  He was certainly not weak.

We are quick to judge others as weak when they may indeed be showing meekness.  I read a story about a man that murdered a stranger.  The evidence was overwhelming, and he admitted to the crime.  The family of the deceased woman forgave the man and asked the judge to not sentence the man to death.  I was overwhelmed with the meekness of this family.  I know some viewed the family as weak or cowardly, but I wonder if these people understand the difference between weakness and meekness.

I saw a story on television years ago about a man that was released from prison after spending many years inside for a crime in which he was later proved innocent due to DNA evidence that was not available at the time of his trial.  He was given a very small cash award from the state and released to get on with his life.  This man had every right to curse those responsible for his time in prison.  Instead, he prayed blessings on all those involved to relieve them of any pain and regret that they may feel due this injustice.  He became a Christian while in prison and later became a minister to many of the other inmates.  He was meek.  May we all be so blessed as to show such meekness the next time we have the opportunity to seek revenge.

Prayer:  Dear God:  Help us remember that by showing meekness we are showing strength, and we are showing Jesus.  Amen.

Meet the Author

Todd Shupe is a Men’s Ministry Specialist through the General Commission of United Methodist Men and is in training to be a Certified Lay Minister through the Louisiana Conference of the United Methodist Church. He currently serves as the President of the Baton Rouge District of United Methodist Men and is a Board Member for Gulf South Men and serves on the Action Team for The Kingdom Group. He is a volunteer for the Walk to Emmaus, Grace Camp, and Iron Sharpens Iron. Todd resides in Baton Rouge, Louisiana.

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What image comes to your mind when you hear the word “gentleness”?  I think most men (and probably most women too ) envision someone that is extremely kind, does not cause any trouble, and always has a smile on their face.  However, we can show gentleness and also be actively engaged in the lives of others.  In fact, we can be gentle while helping a fellow brother or sister in Christ become aware and repent of the sin in their life.  Some might try to argue that what somebody else does in their life is their business.  But how are we to follow the instructions of 1 Thessalonians 5:11 to “build each other up” if we do not help to tear down those things that are separating us from God?

I think it is important to stop here and acknowledge that all Christians can and do sin.  While we are all growing in Christian perfection, the only one to achieve it on earth was Jesus.  We all know that a Christian is called to trust in God.  However, the calling goes deeper and requires us to stop living for the sins of our human nature (flesh) desires (Galatians 5:24).  We are no less of a Christian if we fall into sin and fail to immediately follow the direction of the Spirit away from sin.  Paul is telling us that we need help, and God will provide this help in the form of other Christians.

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The bottom line is a Spiritually mature person must help restore sinners in order for the body of Christ to continue to grow and function.  To restore something is to make it whole and functional again.  When it comes to sin, it must involve repentance and a return to a Spirit-led life.  We all have sinned and made poor choices, but just like the prodigal son (Luke 15), the Father is always waiting to welcome us back!

Prayer:  Dear God, We confess our sins of omission and commission in helping to restore others.  Please reconcile us to You and be with us as we work with You to reconcile others to You.  Amen.

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Do not put your trust in princes, in human beings, who cannot save” (Psalm 146 NIV).

I enjoy participating in several men’s groups throughout the week.  Before COVID-19 these groups would meet in person at a local church, restaurant, or somebody’s house and we would read and discuss Scripture or a devotional, share our concerns and prayer requests, and enjoy fellowship with each other. 

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These men have long been the spiritual leader in their house.  Their family looks to them for advice, leadership, and direction.  These guys have embraced this role.  Now, they are uncertain how to lead.  Their questions are:  How can I lead if I don’t know where I am going?  How can I answer questions from my family if I don’t have any answers?  How can I project calmness when I am anxious and worried? 

To be honest, I have not had very good answers to these questions.  I have many of the same questions and more.  After much thought and prayer and talking with some close friends, I hope the following may be helpful to men that are struggling with this situation. 

 

It is ok to feel uneasy during these times. 

If the disciples were nervous during a storm on the Sea of Galilee, I think it is understandable for us to be a little uneasy in our storms of life.  I think many of us have a false perception of a man based on Hollywood.  I love movies that have a strong, silent man as the hero.  He might be a cowboy working alone on the range, the last gladiator, or a street savvy boxer, etc.  These men are tough and can handle anything that comes along by themselves.   These guys are physically strong and sometimes mentally strong but without the vertical and horizonal axes of the Cross, they are spiritually bankrupt.   The vertical axis represents our relationship with God, and the horizontal axis denotes our relationship with each other.

 

Your leadership is not based upon your ability.

As we learn more about Christ and grow closer to Him, we begin to desire more of the things that He does.  We can lead more like Him when we filter our decisions through His truth, which is the only truth.  Moses and the prophets of the Old Testament were selected by God to provide His leadership to the Jewish people.  Their leadership was good and pleasing to God based on one condition:  Did they listen to God and follow His direction.  Moses, Jacob, David and others were at times obedient to God and as such enjoyed His consolations.  At other times, they were rebellious and did not have His favor.  We can also provide good leadership to our families but can only do so if we are yoked and obedient to Christ.  The Bible is full of examples in which God uses an ordinary person to do the extraordinary.  Remember King David was the youngest of eight sons.  However, the Prophet Isaiah knew that, “A shoot will come up from the stump of Jesse; from his roots a Branch will bear fruit (Isaiah 11:1).  We don’t have any control over this pandemic, but we can take comfort in the assurance that God does.  We can lead our family in prayer to “cast all of our anxiety on Him” (1 Peter 5:7).

 

Diet and exercise are important.

Many self-help books talk about the need for proper diet and exercise to maintain good physical and mental health, particularly during times of adversity.  However, we tend to be less aware of the importance of diet and exercise for our spiritual health.  Our spiritual health is a manifestation of how we feed ourselves spiritually.  We can strengthen our spiritual health through prayer, study, fellowship with other Christians, service, tithing, witness, and other means of grace.  1 Peter 2:2 teaches, “Like newborn babies, crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation.”  We can model and gently encourage proper diet and exercise for our family.

God places others in your life.

Yes, God places other people in your lives.  We should all have a few close friends that we can turn to for good advice.  If you are blessed to have a wife, you can honor her by sharing your feelings and worries with her.  God will use her to speak truth to you just as He uses you to speak to her.  Listen carefully and with discernment, and you may be blessed to hear the still small Voice of God. 

 

Prayer:  We want to be good leaders during times of uncertainty.  We question our ability to lead when we don’t know where we are going.  Help us to realize that is far more comforting for us to know You rather than to know anything else.  We cast our anxiety upon you because we know you care for us.  Amen. 

 

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Todd Shupe is a Men’s Ministry Specialist through the General Commission of United Methodist Men and is in training to be a Certified Lay Minister through the Louisiana Conference of the United Methodist Church. He currently serves as the President of the Baton Rouge District of United Methodist Men and is a Board Member for Gulf South Men and serves on the Action Team for The Kingdom Group. He is a volunteer for the Walk to Emmaus, Grace Camp, and Iron Sharpens Iron. Todd resides in Baton Rouge, Louisiana.

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The greatest need for our children is our unconditional love.  The home must be a place where they are always accepted and appreciated.  Go back and read The Parable of the Prodigal Son in Luke 15:11-32.  The 

unconditional love that our Heavenly Father has for us is the same love we must have for our children.  When we show our children love, we are showing them God.  As fathers we need to model love at home.  They need to see how we love them, the rest of the family, and all guests that enter our house.   Our actions must reinforce our words.

Our children will soon be adults and their parenting skills will largely be based on what they observed from us.   The gifts and trips will fade from memory.  Our words will also fade.  What remains is feelings.  Hopefully, the feelings are of unconditional love, which will be passed on to the next generation.

Some fathers are the life of the party when out in public.  They are considered a fun guy, always quick with a joke, but at home they are the opposite.   I think it’s easy to love people at a distance, but when you’re with them all the time, little things can become annoying.  If we are intentional to ensure that our words are words of life, wherever we are, then we are showing and teaching love to our family and our entire life is a powerful witness.

Back in school, if you received a grade of an A you knew that you did good.  A lot of times we love our kids, but we don’t express it in a way they can understand it. Children understand love in three ways: affection, affirmation, and attention.  These provide the basis for a AAA-rated father.  Please check our more thoughts in Part 2.

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Affection. Children need our hugs and kisses. They need to feel our love.

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Affirmation. Children need to be affirmed.  Build them up with words of love.  

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Attention. Children need our attention. Our time is precious and when we give our time to our children, we are creating valuable memories for us and them. Be present when you are present – put down the smart phone.

Prayer:  Thank you for the blessing of children.  Be with us as we try to raise our children to love and honor you.  Amen.

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Todd Shupe is a Men’s Ministry Specialist through the General Commission of United Methodist Men and is in training to be a Certified Lay Minister through the Louisiana Conference of the United Methodist Church. He currently serves as the President of the Baton Rouge District of United Methodist Men and is a Board Member for Gulf South Men and serves on the Action Team for The Kingdom Group. He is a volunteer for the Walk to Emmaus, Grace Camp, and Iron Sharpens Iron. Todd resides in Baton Rouge, Louisiana.

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Many men are inherently competitive.  We want to be the best at what we do.  It pushes us to harvest the largest buck deer, catch the biggest fish, or grow the largest tomato.  We even compete in fantasy football.  A competitive nature helps us climb the ladder at work.   This inner drive has helped us to be financial providers for our families.  However, many men do not realize that they have other roles in the family besides financial.

I have talked to many men over the years that feel torn between responsibilities at work and home.  They struggle to find a balance between the two.  I have also talked to many men that have expressed an inner emptiness. Life is boring and seems to have no real purpose.  Many of these men are very successful businessmen and want for no material items

Today’s professional demands are tough.  Young professionals are traveling more for work today than any other time in history.  The competition in the market is tough both within your own company for promotions and from competitors for sales.   Many men will embrace the competition, either willingly or unwillingly and spend evenings and weekends at work to get ahead. 

Sadly, these men are often absent when they are present with their families.  Their minds are preoccupied with work, their fingers are busy texting on their phones, or their phone is glued to their ear.  They are conformed to this world.  The Apostle Paul teaches us, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect” (Romans 12:2).  I think it is admirable to do your best at work.    Paul also instructed, “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving” (Colossians 3:23-24). 

Working hard at work is admirable and good, especially if you are working as if for the Lord.  However, remember the old adage, “On their death bed, no one ever wished they had spent more time at work.”  I am not suggesting that you spend less time at work or more time at work.  I am suggesting that you not only use your natural competitive spirit at work but also at home.  Try to be the best father and husband that you can be.  I saw a recent episode of Dr. Phil where he encouraged men to be a provider, protector, leader, and teacher for his family.  I suspect that Retired U.S. Army Lt. Gen.  Jerry Boykin would agree since they are both saying essentially the same thing.   So, continue to do your best at work but remember to do your best at home too!

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Men, You Can Add Power to Your Prayers!

Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours” (Mark 11:24 NIV).

Our prayers already have great power – more than we can ever imagine.  The problem is that we often fail to recognize the power of our prayers.

Prayer is an open line of communication with God.  The idea that we have 24/7 ability to connect to the Creator of heaven and earth is hard to comprehend.

First, why would God want to talk with us? Is there a right and wrong way to pray? Why does God answer some prayers but not others? Does it matter that we only have a little faith?

Thankfully, the Bible gives us insight into these questions and more. Since God desires to have a relationship with us and knows of our human frailties, it’s no surprise He gives us some help.  Below are some of my favorite Scriptures on prayer.

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Luke 18:13-14: “But the tax collector stood at a distance. He would not even look up to heaven, but beat his breast and said, ‘God, have mercy on me, a sinner.’ I tell you that this man, rather than the other, went home justified before God. For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.”

This Scripture is from the well-known story of the Pharisee and the tax collector praying in the temple, reveals the prayer that allows us to enter into a relationship with God: “God, have mercy on me, a sinner.” The tax collector was honest with God about his sin. He humbled himself, repented, and acknowledged his need for God’s mercy.

Summary:  The first step in developing a prayer life is to humble our self and call upon God for salvation. 

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Psalm 66:18: “If I had cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened.”

The Psalmist teaches us a major obstacle to God’s willingness to hear our prayers—unconfessed sin.  The word “cherished” means to embrace.   If we embrace our sin, we are not reconciled with God, and the sin will act as an impediment between us.    God knows we will not live a sinless life, but He does want us to continue to remove our sins.  “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9).

Summary—We can’t live a consistently sinful lifestyle and expect God to hear our prayers.

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“The eyes of the LORD are on the righteous and His ears are attentive to their cry.”

As we move closer to God, we begin to gain more of His peace which transcends all understanding (Philippians 4:7).  We know that He is listening to our prayers because we are both seeking the same things. The Psalmist assures us that He is carefully attuned to our lives.

Summary—If you trust God, He will hear your prayers.

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Daniel 9:18: “We do not make requests of you because we are righteous, but because of your great mercy.”

This verse is from Daniel’s prayer on behalf of the Jews exiled in Babylon.  It reveals an important truth about prayer—that God answers our prayers because of His mercy, not our good works.  While there is nothing we can do to earn our salvation, God’s intention is that our salvation will result in acts of service.   

Summary—God’s mercy, not our actions, is the basis for answered prayers.

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Psalm 5:3: “In the morning, O LORD, you hear my voice; in the morning I lay my requests before you and wait in expectation.”

The Psalmist is teaching us to have eager expectation as we pray.  This is reinforced in the Mark 11:24.   “Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.”  As we pray with confidence, God sees our faith and trust in Him.

Summary—Pray with anticipation that God will hear your request.

Prayer:  Dear God:  We thank you for the blessing of prayer.  May we always be appreciative of it.  Amen.

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Like newborn babies, crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation(1 Peter 2:2 NIV).

We all have cravings.  A craving is a deep desire that implies something stronger than a mere want or desire.  Life is full of temptations and urgent problems which all serve as distractions from our spiritual cravings.  So, how can we be expected to sustain a spiritual appetite?  Below are five steps to consider. 

1.

Remember God loves you always

Nothing can separate us from the love of God (Romans 8:38-39).  His grace is infinitely stronger than our sin.  A life lived in Him and for Him means that “as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us” (Psalm 103:12).  Stand firm on His promises.

2.

Stop filling up on junk food

We all have free will to choose how we feed ourselves.  Some of us will try to complete themselves with work, promotions, status, salary, power, possessions, etc.  These things feed the ego “flesh” but not the soul “spirit.” If you feed the flesh, you will never be satiated.  Proverbs 15:14 teaches, The discerning heart seeks knowledge, but the mouth of a fool feeds on folly.”

3.

Put God first in all things

As Christian men we need to have a hunger for God and His word.  There is nothing no important than Him and our relationship with Him.  Everything else (family, work, house, hobbies, etc.) will all fall into place when we maintain a spiritual hunger for God.  The hunger for God must be sincere and must be a natural product of prayer and submission to the Holy Spirit.  The Apostle Paul wrote, “I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation (Philippians 4:12).  His secret was living through God and tapping into His strength.

4.

Get into God’s Word every day

The Bible is God’s word and nourishment for our souls. Eating one healthy meal a week won’t keep your body healthy.  The same is true for our spiritual health.  We need to feed on His word every day.  1 Peter 2:2 teaches us, “You must crave pure spiritual milk so that you will grow into a full experience of salvation. Cry out for this nourishment.”

5.

Appetite is influenced by association

We influence each other.  Our thoughts, opinions, accents, etc. are influenced by those close to us.   Men need a band of brothers for the battle.  We need others seeking God’s face in our foxhole.  My weekly small group of men helps me to hunger for God.  Proverbs 27:17 teaches us, As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”

Prayer:  Dear God:  We pray the prayer of Psalmist in Psalm 51:10.  “Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.”

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Todd Shupe is a Men’s Ministry Specialist through the General Commission of United Methodist Men and is in training to be a Certified Lay Minister through the Louisiana Conference of the United Methodist Church. He currently serves as the President of the Baton Rouge District of United Methodist Men and is a Board Member for Gulf South Men and serves on the Action Team for The Kingdom Group. He is a volunteer for the Walk to Emmaus, Grace Camp, and Iron Sharpens Iron. Todd resides in Baton Rouge, Louisiana.

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