What Does God Think Of The Five Love Languages?

Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love” (1 John 4:8 NIV).

First, I am the last one to understand the mysterious ways of God.   I have read the Bible and the book Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, which has been an international best-seller for years, and I see some interesting similarities.

Christians knows that God is love, and we know this because 1 John 4:8 tells us.  So, if God is love how does He show His love?  I wonder what God thinks of the Five Love Languages?

The five love languages are receiving gifts, physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, and acts of service.  Let’s take a look at each one.

  1. Receiving gifts

I love to receive gifts and suspect many others do too.  The gift indicates that the giver loves us and has invested time and money into a gift to bless us.  Our God is the ultimate gift giver.  He gave us Jesus to rescue us from sin and death.  He created the world and gave us stewardship of this gift.  He gave the fellowship, love, and wisdom of the Holy Spirit that resides in each one of us.  James 1:17 reminds us of the source of gifts. 

Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows (emphasis added).”

  1. Physical Touch

I have felt the touch of God.  Many Christians don’t realize that God wants us to “feel” Him.  I feel God in so many ways such as when the wind blows in my face, or I feel a tingle from head to toe after a friend or stranger has made a comment that I know was from God.  I have received a hug from a stranger when I was feeling down and walked away knowing that God was hugging me through this person because I had a peace that transcended all understanding.  We can feel His touch in prayer or being prayed for by others.  A blessing given or received is a touch from God.have

  1. Words of Affirmation

For many of us, we love to hear compliments when we do something well.  In fact, God will say to each one of us individually when we enter heaven, “Well done, good and faithful servant.”  He gave His affirmation to the Son after His baptism in the Jordan river by saying, “This is my beloved Son, with whom I am well pleased; listen to Him.”  We are also His children, and when we obey Him that pleases Him.  God can affirm us through Christian friends, prayer, and Scripture.

  1. Quality time

Some people feel loved when you stop what you are doing and choose to spend large amounts of time together with them.

God wants to spend quality time with us. through prayer and worship.  Moses spoke to God “as a man speaks to His friend.”  We do not need to have a formal conversation or a specific time for a conversation.  He is always speaking to us but are we always speaking to Him?  Better yet, are we listening for His voice?  One way I enjoy quality time with God is to be in His presence outdoors to see His masterpiece.

  1. Acts of Service

Through Acts of Service, we are putting love into action.  Jesus washed the feet of His disciples as an act of service.  Wherever we live, there are opportunities for service within and outside of your church.  Jesus modelled for us how to be a servant leader.  Jesus humbled himself and took on the “form of a servant.”  We also can show God our love for Him by serving others:  the poor, our family, our congregation.  God has specifically called us to visit (serve) those most vulnerable in our society:  elderly, orphans, prisoners, and the sick.

Prayer:  Dear God, Thank you for all of your love languages.  Help us to joyfully give and receive these love languages.  We know that whenever a blessing is given and received that You are there.  Thank you for teaching us about Your love, and send your Holy Spirit to equip us to be givers of Your love to others.  Amen.

Meet the Author

Todd Shupe is a Certified Lay Minister and Men’s Ministry Specialist through Francis Asbury Methodist Church in Baton Rouge, LA. He is a Board Member for Gulf South Men, an Action Team member for The Kingdom Group, and a Board Member for the Lagniappe Country Walk to Emmaus. Todd is a contributor to Project XII and Baton Rouge Parents Magazine. He is a Past President of the Baton Rouge District of United Methodist Men and remains active in this and many other local, regional, and international ministries. Additionally, he’s the author of the inspiring book “Fathering A Special Needs Child.”  Todd also enjoys filling the pulpit to share the Good News of our Lord and Savior. Todd is the proud father of Emma and Kyle and resides in Baton Rouge, Louisiana.

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