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What Is A “Real” Man?
I recently heard a term that caught my attention. A friend commented on a movie actor that he liked because the actor is a “real man.” He plays tough-guy characters that don’t put up with any nonsense. A segment of pop music encourages boys and men to be “real men” by selling drugs, killing rivals, and prostituting women. Some TV sitcoms portray “real men” as clowns, grouchy, or unable to communicate with their family. I reject all of these notions of a man and submit to you five characteristics of a real man:
- A real man honors and respects his wife above all else. He affirms her with his actions and words and supports her at all times. There is nothing or no one more important to him than his wife, including his own children
- A real man bows down before he ever attempts to stand up and lead his family. He recognizes that all authority on heaven and earth come from God.
- He knows that upon his death Christ will say to him “Well done my good and faith servant” (Matthew 25:21). A real man straps on the armor of God and encourages his family and others in spiritual warfare.
- A real man accepts responsibility and is able to freely accept AND give grace and forgiveness. He does not carry grudges and realizes that before he throws any stones or criticizes his neighbor for the splinter in their eye, he must carefully examine himself and recognizes that he himself is not without fault.
- A real man is committed to The Great Commissioning and understands that before he can be the hands and feet of God he must first disciple himself and then his family.
In summary, a real man loves his wife as Christ loves the church. He earnestly prays every day for her physical, mental, and spiritual well being. He realizes that he and his spouse are one body and that anything that affects his wife also affects him. A real man is not perfect nor without sin, but he is constantly striving to grow closer to Christ and bring His light into the world.
Meet the Author
Todd Shupe is a Men’s Ministry Specialist through the General Commission of United Methodist Men and is in training to be a Certified Lay Minister through the Louisiana Conference of the United Methodist Church. He currently serves as the President of the Baton Rouge District of United Methodist Men and is a Board Member for Gulf South Men and serves on the Action Team for The Kingdom Group. He is a volunteer for the Walk to Emmaus, Grace Camp, and Iron Sharpens Iron. Todd resides in Baton Rouge, Louisiana.
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