The Lost Fruit of Kindness

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law” Galatians 5:22-23

A Historical Foundation of Character

According to the Mount Vernon website, he wrote a copy of the 110 Rules of Civility in his schoolbook when he was about 14 years old. These maxims originated in late 16th-century France and were widely circulated during Washington’s time. This exercise, now regarded as a formative influence in the development of his character, included guidelines for behavior in pleasant company, appropriate actions in formal situations, and general courtesies.

Kindness as a Defining Christian Trait

Kindness, once a defining mark of Christian character both before and after George Washington’s lifetime, seems to be fading in many corners of modern society. In a world increasingly shaped by speed, division, and self-interest, the spiritual fruit of kindness is often overlooked or dismissed as weakness. Yet Scripture presents kindness not as optional, but as a vital expression of a transformed heart—evidence of God’s Spirit at work within us.

Kindness as the Fruit of the Spirit

The Bible clearly identifies kindness as part of the “fruit of the Spirit” (Galatians 5:22–23). This means it is not something manufactured by sheer willpower, but something that grows naturally when a person abides in Christ. Kindness reflects God’s own nature. Throughout Scripture, we see a God who is patient, compassionate, and rich in mercy. His kindness leads us to repentance (Romans 2:4), showing its power to soften hearts and restore what is broken.

Why Kindness Is Diminishing

The Normalization of Harshness

So why does kindness seem to be diminishing? One reason is the normalization of harshness. Public discourse, especially in digital spaces, often rewards outrage more than gentleness. People are quick to criticize, slow to listen, and reluctant to extend grace, but James 1:19 teaches us to “be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger.” When kindness is no longer practiced, it becomes unfamiliar—and eventually, undervalued.

The Rise of Individualism

Another factor is the growing emphasis on individualism. Society often encourages people to prioritize personal success, comfort, and recognition above all else. In such an environment, kindness can feel inconvenient. It requires time, attention, and sometimes sacrifice. It asks us to notice others, to care, and to act—even when there is nothing to gain in return. Sadly, some people are happy to receive kindness but are hesitant to give kindness.

Why Kindness Matters for Christians

For Christians, the loss of kindness should be a serious concern. Jesus taught that love for others would be the defining mark of His followers (John 13:35). Kindness is one of the clearest ways that love is made visible. Without it, our witness becomes hollow. Words about faith carry little weight if they are not accompanied by actions that reflect Christ’s heart.

Restoring Kindness in Daily Life

The good news is that kindness can be restored, beginning with individuals who choose to live differently. It does not require grand gestures. Often, the most powerful acts of kindness are small and consistent. A gentle response instead of a sharp one. A willingness to listen rather than interrupt. A moment taken to encourage someone who is struggling. These choices, though simple, can have a profound impact. Even a smile is kind.

Rooted in Relationship with God

To cultivate kindness, a person must first remain rooted in their relationship with God. Prayer, Scripture, and quiet reflection help align the heart with His character. As we become more aware of the kindness God has shown us, we are more inclined to extend that same grace to others. Gratitude fuels generosity and kindness of spirit.

Living with Intention

It is also important to be intentional. Kindness rarely happens by accident in a busy life. Setting aside moments to serve, to check on others, or to offer help makes a difference. Even in difficult situations—when faced with rudeness or hostility—a commitment to respond with kindness can break cycles of negativity. Scripture tells us that a gentle answer turns away wrath, and there is a lot of wrath out there.

Strengthened Through Community

Finally, kindness grows stronger when it is practiced within a community. I find myself behaving more kindly when I spend more time in prayer, Scripture, and fellowship with kind Christian friends.

The Value of Time as Kindness

The kindest gift someone can give me is their time because it is the most precious commodity we all have. Time spent actively listening and genuinely being present is the ultimate kindness for me.

A Final Reflection

In a world that often feels cold and divided, kindness is not a small thing—it is a powerful testimony. It reflects the heart of God and can bring light to dark places. By choosing kindness daily, individuals can help restore something deeply needed, not only in society but in the soul of humanity itself.